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I think much of this is fair, and appreciate you writing such a thorough perspective on it. I do talk in the other parts of the series about making sure that this is actually right for your child, but so much in this one, since it's Part 3. I'll explicitly agree: it's definitely not right for all children! Full stop. My only opinion is that I do think it's more right for more children than people think.

I'll specifically address one part about the "German" view, because it's a more general criticism that people often say in this context, which is that in childhood it's important to focus on play, imaginative games, and social relationships, instead of reading. I strongly agree with this. If I had the choice between, say, encouraging imaginative play, and then on the other hand teaching a child to read, and I could only do one, I would choose encouraging imaginative play. But this observation is easy to slip into an either-or fallacy that's not true for many circumstances, because I find these activities are not usually restrictions of each other. E.g., the 15-30 minutes of reading in the morning over breakfast leaves plenty of time for imaginative play, and for social outings, and for the development of emotional intelligence. I think it all compounds, rather than competes: at a certain point, kids need fuel for their play, need context for social situations, etc. That often comes in the form of stories.

But again, you're right it's not for everyone and depends on many outside factors - it's just a method I do think will generalize well (especially because there's lots of flexibility) for the parents who themselves make the judgement that it's appropriate.

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